Dewey Edition23
Reviews"Care for the dying resembles nothing so much as care for the newly born. This deep, immeasurable connection is precisely what Michael Erard, a linguist and historian, most wants to explore. 'With our earliest utterances,' he writes, 'we announce ourselves' and are recognized 'as persons ready to participate in social life.' With our last sounds, we carve out a space for leaving it. Bye Bye I Love You follows both of these journeys, searching for what these words--and our desperate need to hear them--reveal about their meaning, our mortality and the ephemerality of being human." -- The Wall Street Journal "A book ending with so much death may sound like a hard read. Instead, it is a beautiful and even strangely comforting one, with Mr Erard as a pensive, patient guide. The end must come; unrealistic expectations about final messages need not." --The Economist "Erard's most essential point is that the recently born and the about-to-die share a state of signifying that is just beyond words" --4columns
Table Of ContentContents Prelude. Into the Puckerbrush Introduction A List of Questions A Note on Sources Chapter 1. The Four Expectations Chapter 2. The Story of a First Word (or Why We Pay Attention to First Words at All) Chapter 3. The First First Word Chapter 4. The Truth about "Mama" Chapter 5. The Normal First Word Conclusion, Part 1. Ritual, Sincerity, and the First Word Interlude. A Year at the MPI Chapter 6. How Do We Really Communicate at the End of Our Lives? Chapter 7. William Osler and "The Study of the Act of Dying" Chapter 8. The Linguistic Powers of the Dying Chapter 9. Death Resists Chapter 10. Beyond Last Words Chapter 11. A Linguistics of Last Words Conclusion Epilogue. Back to the Puckerbrush Acknowledgements Endnotes Further Reading & Selected Sources
SynopsisA beautiful and intimate exploration of first and last words--and the many facets of how language begins and ends--from a pioneering language writer. With our earliest utterances, we announce ourselves--and are recognized--as persons ready for social life. With our final ones, we mark where others must release us to death's embrace. In Bye Bye I Love You , linguist and author Michael Erard explores these phenomena, commonly called "first words" and "last words," uncovering their cultural, historical, and biological entanglements and honoring their deep private significance. Erard draws from personal, historical, and anthropological sources to provide a sense of the breadth of beliefs and practices about these phenomena across eras, religions, and cultures around the world. What do babies' first words have in common? How do people really communicate at the end of life? In the first half of the book, Erard tells the story of first words in human development and evolution, and how the attention to children's early language--a modern phenomenon--arose. In the second half, he provides a groundbreaking overview of language at the end of life and the cultural conventions that surround it. Throughout he reveals the many parallels and asymmetries between first and last words and asks whether we might be able to use a linguistic understanding of end of life to discover what we truly want.