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PublisherKingsley Publishers, Jessica
ISBN-101849059063
ISBN-139781849059060
eBay Product ID (ePID)112992226
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Book TitleBrothers and Sisters in Adoption : Helping Children Navigate Relationships When New Kids Join the Family
Number of Pages544 Pages
LanguageEnglish
TopicSociology / General, Adoption & Fostering
Publication Year2012
IllustratorYes
GenreFamily & Relationships, Social Science
AuthorArleta James
FormatHardcover
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Item Height1 in
Item Weight46.5 Oz
Item Length10 in
Item Width7 in
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ReviewsWhat a courageous treatment of issues in adoption. Arleta James dare to talk about the day the family becomes immobilized - that dark secret in child welfare that only the families themselves have, in the past, seemed capable of acknowledging openly. After walking with the reader through those depleting and terrifying days, she takes us to re-mobilization and renewal. She gets us to the place that families want to be, without overlooking the excruciatingly tough middle part., One of the most common questions I hear from people already parenting typically developing children and now considering adopting an older child or sibling group is 'How are sibling relationships different when some or all of the kids have arrived by adoption?' Therapist Arleta James is the first to try to answer that question in any depth. With Brothers and Sisters in Adoption: Helping Children Navigate Relationships When New Kids Join the Family Arleta provides parents - and placement professionals - with essential tools for helping already-resident children adjust their expectations and go into adoption of a child who has experienced neglect and/or trauma with eyes wide open., Kudos to Arleta James, who has filled a gap in the classic adoption literature with this book devoted to the well-being of siblings. Her book is not only thorough, but thoroughly enjoyable. In particular I liked her charts, including her easy-to-follow trajectories of children's needs from placement into the coming years, and her "Mobilization Inventory" to help all family members to stay healthy. Thanks, Arleta, for this excellent resource. I will be referring to it in my practice and trainings., There's a problem with the title of Brothers and Sisters in Adoption: It is about vastly more! It tells the story of the whole family's response to a new member entering the circle through adoption. Everyone gets listened to in this amazingly thorough book. As a result, there is guidance and support available herein for every member of the family. Adoptive parents typically have highly-attuned meters for detecting falseness and inexperience in professionals with whom they must deal. What they will detect in Arleta James' new book, Brothers and Sisters in Adoption, is cold-stone truth. They will know it by the "rings true" nature of her examples, and by the tenderness and clarity of her guidance. This elevates Brothers and Sisters in Adoption from the "bookshelf book" to the rarified world of 'handbook'., Don't let the title of this book fool you! Arleta James has written a book not just about Brothers and Sisters in Adoption, but about the dynamics of any family formed by adoption. This approach to how a child's past influences his blending into family dynamics is comprehensive, yet not bogged down with academic details. Examples from Arleta's work as an attachment therapist are interwoven into the narrative to enrich this thorough, yet fast. If you are a family seeking to grow through adoption, read this now, then again and again. If your family was formed through adoption years ago, this book will help you navigate the challenges of growing together as a family. This is an important tool for all who work in adoption to have at the forefront of one's professional and personal library., There's a problem with the title of Brothers and Sisters in Adoption: It is about vastly more! It tells the story of the whole family's response to a new member entering the circle through adoption. Everyone gets listened to in this amazingly thorough book. As a result, there is guidance and support available herein for every member of the family.Adoptive parents typically have highly-attuned meters for detecting falseness and inexperience in professionals with whom they must deal. What they will detect in Arleta James' new book, Brothers and Sisters in Adoption, is cold-stone truth. They will know it by the "rings true" nature of her examples, and by the tenderness and clarity of her guidance. This elevates Brothers and Sisters in Adoption from the "bookshelf book" to the rarified world of 'handbook'., Thank you, Arleta, for providing us an extremely important book that should be required reading for prospective adoptive parents and social workers involved in all the facets of adoption. What a fantastic basis for discussion as we design, develop, and implement preparation for post-placement supportive programs! As this book documents so well, noone's - parents or children's - can be put "on hold" until healing has occurred. In fact, as many of us doing this type of parenting will acknowledge, total "healing" may never occur. We do know, however, that how we parent our children has a chance of at least making our grandchildren's lives better. In my experience, that has served as a realistic expectation and goal. Thank you for providing some tools for us to ponder and use., Arleta James has managed to write an engaging book that is so comprehensive that it may attain the status of a signature text. Arleta skillfully combines a scholarly review of the literature with numerous vignettes or stories which illustrate and educate so that the reader sees the situation or the problems through the eyes of the story teller. The perspective of the child adopted internationally or domestically, resident siblings, fathers, and mothers is so illustrative that an understanding of behavior as a form of communication should be enhanced. In addition, each family member will feel understood and validated as personal feelings and struggles are identified in the stories of others. Relatives, teachers, adoption professionals , social service social workers and mental health professionals will find this book essential if they truly want to understand the perspective of the child and his or her adoptive family. The letting go of the old expectations in the section on grief and the acceptance of a new normal in family relationships provides a fitting resolution to this realistic, insightful book., The child welfare field, parent and practitioner, will unquestionably welcome this comprehensive guidebook to the world of adoption. Parents and potential parents, caseworkers, and therapists are given a great deal to ponder. This is ultimately a book about understanding, about communicating, and about normalizing adoptive family life... and it gives hope throughout. The "real life" family examples are excellent, as are the resources found at the end of each chapter. Although self-defined as a book about siblings in adoption, it actually goes far beyond sibling issues. Rather, it offers a great deal of valuable information for families who are still without children, or who have no birth children, and who are considering their first adoption. Congratulations to Arleta James, who reaches out personally to each reader!
Dewey Edition23
Dewey Decimal362.7340973
Table Of Content1. The Development of Realistic Expectations. 2. Pre-placement Preparation. 3. Taking Stock: Are We a Family for a Child? 4. "Getting to Know Him:" Dads in Adoption. 5. Joining "Waiting" Families and "Waiting" Children: Matching is not an Exact Science. 6. Moving to the Adoptive Family: Through the Eyes of the Child. 7. When a Child Leaves the Family: Displacement, Disruption and Dissolution. 8. Post-placement: The Family Becomes Immobilized. 9. Mobilization: Becoming a "New and Different" Family - Part 1. 10. Mobilization: Becoming a "New and Different" Family - Part 2. 11. "We're All Grown Up:" Turning 18 and Beyond.
SynopsisWhen experienced parents decide to adopt an older child or a sibling group, they jump through all kinds of bureaucratic hoops. This book offers insights, examples and tools for helping newly configured families prepare, accept, react, and mobilize to become a new and different family, meeting the physical and emotional needs of all its members., What about the kids already there? How do they do when a child with a challenging past joins a family by adoption? When experienced parents decide to adopt an older child or a sibling group, they jump through all kinds of bureaucratic hoops - background checks, interviews, group meetings, reading assignments, classes, etc. But most often the typically developing children these adults are already parenting (whether through birth or adoption) are left out of the process, informed that a new kid is coming, and simply expected to "adjust" to the addition of another sibling. The addition of a child with a history of neglect or trauma cannot be a seamless transition. The expectations of everyone involved - parents, new siblings, and, yes, professionals facilitating the adoption - must be realistic, taking into account that the new child will need special attention that may take away time and attention from the already resident kids, that family life is likely to be turned topsy turvy until appropriate counseling and support are in place, that relationships will change. Therapist Arleta James is certainly not the first person to recognize this, but she is the first to do something about it. Brothers and Sisters in Adoption offers insights and examples and sturdy, practical, proven tools for helping newly configured families prepare, accept, react, and mobilize to become a new and different family meeting the practical, physical and emotional needs of all its members. These well prepared and supported families are the ones who thrive!, Arleta James, LPCC is Founder and Director of Adoption & Attachment Therapy Partners LLC. She has been an adoption professional for 20 years. She spent 15 years providing adoption-attachment-trauma informed therapies at the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio and several years as a caseworker for the Pennsylvania Statewide Adoption Network placing foster children with adoptive families. She then served as the statewide Matching Specialist. Arleta is a member of the International Society for Neurofeedback and Research, Ohio Counseling Association and the North American Council on Adoptable Children., Arleta James, LPCC is Founder and Director of Adoption & Attachment Therapy Partners LLC. She has been an adoption professional for 20 years. She spent 15 years providing adoption-attachment-trauma informed therapies at the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio and several years as a caseworker for the Pennsylvania Statewide Adoption Network ......
LC Classification NumberHV875.J36 2012
