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PublisherHarperCollins
ISBN-100062322583
ISBN-139780062322586
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Book TitleState of Affairs : Rethinking Infidelity
Number of Pages336 Pages
LanguageEnglish
Publication Year2017
TopicPersonal Growth / Memory Improvement, Marriage & Long-Term Relationships, General, Psychotherapy / Counseling, Human Sexuality (See Also Social Science / Human Sexuality)
GenreFamily & Relationships, Self-Help, Psychology
AuthorEsther Perel
FormatHardcover
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Item Height1.1 in
Item Weight18.8 Oz
Item Length9 in
Item Width6 in
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LCCN2017-277051
ReviewsThe State of Affairs examines infidelity from all points of view - the person who cheated, the person who was cheated on, and the third party - in an attempt to understand how to make modern relationships more resilient., She has an incredible ability to speak the truth in a way that cuts you to the core and also makes you feel safe to explore topics we usually don't talk about., Perel proposes a radically new way of thinking about infidelity that goes beyond the havoc it wreaks and drills down to its motives., Where marriage was once a means for security and reproduction, it's a lot more complex these days. 'Now, we want our partner to love us, to desire us, to be interested in us,' writes world-renowned relationship expert Esther Perel in her new book, The State of Affairs., Through her research, [Perel is] able to dive into the sordid history of affairs, the modern prevalence of romantic love, and why, exactly, infidelity doesn't always lead to the dissolution of a marriage. As it turns out, the widely accepted reasons for why people cheat don't always apply -- and the list of potential reasons is ever-evolving., [Perel] uses her findings to confront some of the most controversial and uncomfortable topics.... Here is a woman who, after spending three decades listening to tales of lies, pain and illicit sex, still believes in our ability to love and be loved in an honest, nuanced way., One of the most respected voices on erotic intelligence, she views sexuality as a lens through which to examine the progressive or conservative forces at work in a society., The Book is sure to spark intelligent conversations that will have readers everywhere examining their belief systems... A thought-provoking take on relationships and essential reading for couples dealing with infidelity., This is an addictive read. Beautifully written by Esther Perel, author of bestseller Mating in Captivity, [The State of Affairs] delves into the murky world, of deceit, betrayal and ultimate pain., It's the knowledge and research Perel has amassed on infidelity over the years, through her work as a couple's therapist, that's most compelling.... Perel is defiantly non-judgmental., In her opinion, confronting and unearthing the why behind an affair with honesty and courage, can steer a relationship back from brink--possibly towards a place of erotic rediscovery., Esther Perel is one of the most influential and well-known psychotherapists in the world. Through TED Talks, best-selling books, a podcast (Where Should We Begin?), and her clinical practice in New York City, she explores the one subject she believes interests every human: relationships., It's fascinating because it makes you question your beliefs on the nature of adultery when you view it in a less one-dimensional way., Perel spends much of her book examining the psychological meaning, motivation, and impact of these affairs., "Since publishing "Mating in Captivity" in 2006, Ms Perel has become a globe-trotting guru on sex and relationships... [In The State of Affairs, Perel dispels] myths and to show that affairs can sometimes even fortify relationships, so long as they spur a couple to discuss what has long been left unsaid.", Unfailingly empathetic.... The State of Affairs is packed with such sage insights.... Through her formidable elegance, Perel manages to infuse some dignity into the pettiness of most betrayals., Perel takes a peel-the-layers approach to infidelity that surprises on every page.... [She] weaves together a collection of personal stories that is both thrilling (you feel like you're eavesdropping) and moving., Ms. Perel uses this sensible book to dispel these myths and to show that affairs can sometimes even fortify relationships, so long as they spur a couple to discuss what has long been left unsaid., Perel uses conversation, knowledge, intuition, and creativity to make incisive interpretations that, at their most elegant, are not only helpful but artful. Listening to these sessions is deeply provoking., Perel suggests that one factor driving infidelity in otherwise happy marriages is the fact that we rely on our spouse for too much, particularly too much in our own quest for self-discovery., [Perel] deals with the mess and pain of fractured relationships with searing honesty, astute observations and compassion... If your marriage were in trouble, you'd want her help., The State of Affairs takes a fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity -- but not necessarily the wisest one., Sexologist Perel, a marriage crisis 'first responder,' excavates the messy psychology of infidelity, digging into such charged topics as the 'new shame' of wives--staying with a cheater--and why even happy partners sometimes stray., Ms. Perel doesn't recommend that couples be unfaithful--far from it. But she thinks that affairs can happen in stable, happy marriages, and that they often have more to do with a person than a relationship., It's impossible to quantify how many marriages [Perel] has helped save, although she has received thousands of thank you letters over the years., [One of the] best books of 2017... In The State of Affairs, Perel explores a vast landscape of the adulterous terrain... in a way that's deeply humane and never preachy., As someone so completely plugged into the world of relationships, it makes sense that Perel would have some incredible insight into the most important one of all: the relationship we have with ourselves., With a Francophone accent that sounds just as knowledgeable as it does erotic, to say Perel is easy on the ears is an understatement., The book is sure to spark intelligent conversations that will have readers everywhere examining their belief systems... a thought-provoking take on relationships and essential reading for couples dealing with infidelity.
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Dewey Decimal306.736
SynopsisIconic couples' therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about the human heart-what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so too the prohibition against it-in fact, it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. So what are we to make of this time-honored taboo-universally forbidden yet universally practiced Why do people cheat-even those in happy marriages Why does an affair hurt so much When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage Is it possible to love more than one person at once Can an affair ever help a marriage Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage-with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, "Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.", "A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity -- but not necessarily the wisest one." -- LA Review of Books From iconic couples' therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo--universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat--even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage--with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships--what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, "Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.", Iconic couples' therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo--universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat--even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage--with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships--what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, "Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart."
LC Classification NumberHQ806.P474 2017
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- 25. Dez. 2017
Excellent read!
Blown away by the articulation of Esther Perel who is fluent in 9 languages. I wanted to learn about the different aspects of affairs but there are a couple that she did not cover so I intend to write to illicit her response. An excellent read for anyone wanting to understand the psychology of an affair and its players and how it affects families, friends and strangers.Bestätigter Kauf: JaArtikelzustand: Neu
- 16. Sep. 2024
Excellent relationship book
Every married couple should read this book.Bestätigter Kauf: JaArtikelzustand: Gebraucht
- 22. Jul. 2019
Love it!
Great red. New in excellent conditionBestätigter Kauf: JaArtikelzustand: Neu
