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- KurzbeschreibungPopular culture often portrays divorced fathers as deadbeats who have little interest in caring for the emotional, physical, and financial needs of their children. In the stereotype-shattering book, ""I Didn't Divorce My Kids!,"" Gerhard Amendt presents the long-neglected plight of the divorced father who is plagued by grief and loneliness after being separated from his children. Based on surveys and in-depth interviews of thousands of such dads, Amendt reveals how fathers cope with trying to salvage their own lives while simultaneously maintaining relationships with their children after a painful divorce.
Amendt's incisive look at divided families also explores the impact that a single-parent household has on children's well-being, criticizing the American tendency to over-pathologize normal reactions to familial upheaval. Even the most civilized of divorces, Amendt argues, can cause rage, sadness, potential health problems, and behavioral disturbances in otherwise well-adjusted children. The broad spectrum of experiences recounted in ""I Didn't Divorce My Kids!" "will be essential reading for anyone interested in, or personally shaped by, the changing face of the modern family.
- AutorGerhard Amendt
- VerlagCampus Verlag
- Seiten280 Seiten
- Gewicht420 g
Why Men Speak about Their Secrets
Astonishingly, more than 3,600 divorced fathers were willing to speak openly and candidly about stressful and often deeply traumatic experiences. A common explanation is that men have changed over the last 30 years and as a result can speak more freely about their feelings. But although men have indeed changed, the explanation is not convincing. Rather, it indicates that the male psyche has been misunderstood and it points to the myths that have replaced an empathetic perception and interpretation of masculinity. In point of fact, the counterthesis runs, men were always ready to discuss their feelings in a masculine fashion, but the public was simply unwilling to listen. Nobody enjoys talking about painful experiences when his words fall on deaf ears. Above all, a man will not speak about experiences that injure his self-esteem and call his capability into question. Who would want to render himself additionally vulnerable?
People who rely on the male sense of self-esteem and furthermore build their own lives on a man's ability to perform, as is still typical for women in classic gender-role assignment, will be reluctant to listen to things that could unsettle their beliefs. Women who need support are thereby deprived of emotional and social certainties they do not wish to forgo. "Male weakness" poses a disadvantage for those who are dependent and rely on "strong men." Men will not speak about their weaknesses as long as they run the risk incurring the contempt of those they have disappointed. As my teacher, Theodor W. Adorno, once wrote: "Love you will find only where you may show yourself weak without provoking strength." A person who wants to discuss his difficulties will only do so if he can be sure that his weaknesses will be accepted and his unstable sense of self-esteem will not be pursued with ridicule.
With the encouragement of the women's movement toward the end of the last century, many women began to speak openly about their feelings, passions, unfulfilled desires and sexual fantasies, even revealing that they inclined toward violence against their partners and children. Naturally, such confessions were not the exclusive result of personal courage; instead, they were also promoted by a public that was suddenly willing to listen, without shaming or deriding them, or turning away in irritation. This applied to the family, the community, the political parties, the workplace, academia, and the media. Matters that women at one time had concealed in shamed silence were suddenly worth hearing and warranted discussion. Not least, this resulted in new women's literature
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